Becoming a mother can be the most overwhelming experience of your life. It also is the most challenging one. All of a sudden you need to take care of a small human being who is dependent on you for all his basic needs and you are left with no energy. It becomes so difficult to be available 24*7 and that takes a toll on your own mental and physical health. Especially when your postpartum hormones are raging, and you need to cope up with your new body image and sleep deprivation. I went through the same when my baby was born though I had all the help from my mom. There was a time when I felt that my identity has been stolen. It took six months for me to establish a routine for myself to save my sanity. I wanted to share seven things which helped me get my groove back. Here is something for you new mamas !
1. Establish a daily routine, focussing on small goals
Babies love routine from the day one. Unpredictability makes them fussy and confused. Accordingly set a routine for yourself keeping baby’s tasks in mind. Keep your goals simple and try out new things at baby’s nap times. The idea is to give you maximum time for you to work on yourself and finishing the daily chores on time.
2. Spend sometime doing what you love
We all have our own stress busters. Some love cooking and others reading. Pick what you loved doing before having the baby and try to take out at least 20 minutes in a day to do that. I started working out for 30 minutes and trust me those 30 minutes helped me go through the day peacefully. I became more patient with the baby and his dad.
3. Get dressed and put on some makeup
I am not a makeup expert. Nor I love wearing makeup everyday. But taking a shower and getting dressed in nice clothes literally changes my mind and body. You might want to stay in PJs all day but dressing up uplifts your mood. It also makes you feel attractive and gets your energy back.
4. Set realistic expectations for yourself.
You are not a super woman and you will not do everything right all the time. So do not feel bad if you make mistakes. You would also want to lose that baby weight and get your pre-baby body back. It took nine months for you to grow the baby, you cannot lose the weight overnight. Set realistic expectation to lose weight and stick to your goals.
5. Bond with other mommies
This is a life saviour. Trust me on that. I used to ping my mommy friends every now and then to clear my doubts. Connecting with other mommies helps you increase your knowledge about parenting and learn from each others’ experiences.
6. Go out on a date
With your husband or your girlfriends. It changes the surroundings for you and at the same time gives you a little break from your routine. It will make you feel relaxed and energised to go back to your duties.
7. Ask for help
It wont hurt you much to ask for help once in a while if you feel things are getting out of control. Ask for help from family and friends. Getting help can give you time for yourself. Remember, you cannot take care of the baby if you don’t take care of yourself first
I agree with all those points. Easier said than done, eh?
Took a long time to understand what to do 🙈🙈
Loved the post Anchal, getting back to earlier shape and mind is really necessary for happy healthy mom. My fav are spending girl time and put some make-up and rock 😉
Mine too 😍
Get dressed is the most followed tip for me!
That’s great. How these little things lift up our mood 😍
Hey Aanchal, my thoughts are too similar to yours. Doing what makes you happy is the best steeds buster
It really does. 🙂
Now these are totally great tips…I feel the quicker one gets back to shape the better one feels or it would make us lazy forever
http://www.simpleindianmom.in/boost-immune-system-naturally/
You pointed out a relevant point there
Getting ready is e most difficult one man. I am forever in my pjs and bad hair 😂😂😂
Me too. But just applying some kajal and doing my hair makes me fee ready for the day 🙂
I agree it’s really important to start focusing on self to be able to feel alive again!
Thank you for reading 🙂
Really nice tips! Dressing up and wearing some good scent always cheers me up!!!!
Me too 🙂
Aanchal the last point is really important! somehow we try and work up ourselves. we must learn to let go and ask for help as much as we can get in those days
That’s right 🙂
Lovely tips. I did follow some of those when I was the mum of a little baby 13 years ago. It took me a while before getting there, though! Life lessons come in so many ways!
You are right. Life lessons come in a lot of ways
I guess we moms know what is best for us. But get so much into baby raising , that we forget about ourselves. With time we realise could have done things differently. I always feel I could have been calmer and should not hv been so overwhelmed after my daughter was born today after 8 years.
I believe so too. Spent so much time neglecting myself.
Mom always tole me Be mom first then you will come to know. Sachi from very first day of my motherhood I realised it. Thanks for sharing this blog as I am sure this will help many moms.
https://themommytale.com/story-mamta/
Thank you so much 🙂
“Bond with other mommies” is one difficult thing to do. I could only bond online and still struggle in going out nd meeting people! Alas.
Really adorable and useful tips. Great starter for all new moms to get back to their fitness thing.
Thanks dear 😊
anchal.. we think so alike yaa
the main reason i love your writeups, it feels u are echoing my heart here.
totally agree we need to get back to ourelves healthy n happy
Thanks darling. The same reason I love yours too.
Lovely tips…truly they are small little things but great enough to uplift your mood…and you look pretty with that little make up and danglers …
Thank you so much 😊 That is so kind of you
These are some great tips for new moms. It is important to mention the last point of getting help. It can be a saviour
Very much. Thank you 😊
These are some great tip. Very helpful post for all the new moms.
Thank you so much 😊
Lovely tips. While I do follow a few of these, there are many I need to start incorporating in my life.
Thank you 😍
Loved the pretty lady who popped up with the make up point..you look so pretty ..and nice post
Thank you so much 😘
Great tips! Thanks for your lovely tips pretty mama❤
Taking time out for myself is what is keeping me sane till now. Lovely blog with some really helpful tips.
Such great tips! Definitely something I’m still struggling with!
Thank you for reading Delia. Much love. Hope you succeed soon ❤️
Those are some great tips
Thank you 😊
We think so much alike Anchal. I have done all the points with both my post pregnancy days and it really helps a lot. My favorite has always been taking time out for myself and connecting with friends. It had always helped me with getting over the stress and exertion. .
😊Thank you.
nice post for new moms.
Thank you 🙂