February, the month of love is here and Valentine’s Day is around the corner. We both know what most of the couples are planning for this day. Surprise dinners, gifts, movies, long drives and what not. The list of ideas can just go on and on. All these years I craved for these surprises from you. And I still remember how upset I used to get when you didn’t feel the excitement for Valentine’s Day as I did. I still have the letters I forced you to write. Those are my priceless possessions.
But things have changed this year. In fact ever since we became parents. The day begins with chores around our son and ends the same way. You and I hardly get anytime to talk to each other. Of course, I do complain a lot about my day or the things I couldn’t do. But we do not get quality time to spend with each other like we used to. How I miss those vacations where we just lay beneath the sun near the sea and saw the waves hit us. Hence, this Valentine’s Day, I do not want a card, letter, jewellery or flowers but
Let’s promise each other these …
1) Time Time Time ! Even if its just ten minutes in a day. Lets spend quality time with each other.
2) Watch a TV series together. You can choose one and lets watch an episode every night or alternate nights. Or a movie every weekend.
3) Let me sleep for a bit longer over the weekends. You know how sleep deprived I am.
4) A few baby free hours over the weekend. And I promise I won’t complain if you come late on the working days
5) Cook for me. Like you used to. I know you can make only a few dishes but I promise I won’t judge. In return, I will try my hands on baking.
6) Confess our love to each other more often. Like we used to !
7) Let’s start working out. We both know we need to get fit. And it’s now or never. Let’s motivate each other to take care of our health and fitness.
I would like to end this letter with my favourite quote from A walk to remember :
“Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offence and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.”
This blog post is a part of a Blog Train that I am hosting with Jasmeet from Mommyvoyage.
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46 thoughts on “This Valentine’s Day, I do not want flowers or gifts”
Amazing letter…these promises are the most important part of our life…?
That was so sweet . Such great tips and advises❣️
Beautiful write up straight from the heart..
The promises you mentioned are a must for all couples post kids. Loved the write up.
Just going to go ahead and forward this to my other half, I could have written this. I particularly love no.3!!
These are so sweet. My husband and I already do a lot of these, but the sleeping in we struggle with as he wants to sleep in too. I’ve been trying to go to bed earlier instead.
These promises make life more beautiful… Love to read it
The quote from walk to remember in the end added a flavour.. It’s a must read for couples who are struggling in outside world and not able to spent enough time in each other’s company
Great list! I know that all i want is sleep ? i really think what you have is a must for couples !
Haha… How our wish list changes post mommyhood… Loved every bit of it Anchal…. It should be made the universal gift guide for all the dads out there..
I love the thoughts! It seems you just wrote my thoughts. I just shared it with my spouse.
Loved the write up anchal.. very well put.. wish you guys a long and happy married life.
I could connect so much with this post of yours Anchal .,.and every weekend we plan we will each atleast one episode of a series but then we will sleep off with our son every single day ???..I wish we achieve this someday..
I hope you guys do ?
Hey Anchal lovely write up! I too feel a good work out session together, watching web series together, going out for mid coffees was the essence of ya as a couple, I plan to live these again this year.
Great Write up Anchal!! i would rally love some baby free hours to myself. it would be a blessing to do things i love doing
So these promises looks like history for us. We share amazing relationship but with kids it’s more silent love than loud one. I wish to achieve some promises soon.
Hey that’s a very nicely compiled list must stick it somewhere so that it can revisited everyday ☺️
This is so beautiful! ❤ Couples hardly get me time after having a baby.. but that’s the best gift to ask for ❤
Such a heartfelt and honest write up. The gifts you’ve asked for are so enjoyable and true.!
I love that fact that you have kept such simple realistic goals for yourself as a couple. I’m going to make Srini read this and maybe decide something similar.
Beautiful, with every word I felt that I too had the same wishes for we, the couple, more so after having our baby 3 years back.
I am glad that you are able to convey your feelings. For me Valentine is like every other day.
Amazing letter! Sweet and simple… straight from the heart! This is what really matters …
Loved reading your blog and the Valentine’s Day concept is so good.
I can relate you. Everything has changed after having baby
So true we need each other’s presence more than anything today
Thanks for sharing these ideas, surely giving some of these a try!
Time and understanding are the best gifts thi Valentine’s day.Its right on time too.??
Lovely post and we all go thru this phase but it’s a day of celebration, we can take out sometimes after baby too
In this new era of gadgets these are real kind of promises we need to make to each other. What a lovely post ??. Happy Valentine’s Day !
This is also what my heart wants to say! I have been craving some “us” time with my husby who lives abroad!☺️
Nice post. Sweet, sincere and sounds like quite a dynamic change in your life.
I saw a typo, if that’s the kind of feedback you want. Let me know. Otherwise, keep at it. I hope you had a wonderful Valentines day.
Hi. Thanks for stoping by. I couldn’t find the typo
This is so sweet. This is all I want too!
Lovely write up!! Being fit,watching series together ,catching up on pending sleep in my list as well.
For us it’s confessing love and getting fit on top of our list!
So relatable.. After being parents, these things matter more than fancy date and gifts..
Beautifully penned down! There are many things one can do to express love that can compensate for chocolates and flowers and leave a memorable impact as well.