It was 3 AM and I was fast asleep with the songs still playing on my iPod. I woke up to my phone vibrating and saw her call. To pick the call, I quietly sneaked out of the room. “I broke up with him”, she told me. And kept on crying on the call. I took some time to console her and finally when I did, we both just became silent trying to understand these difficult relationships. Once I knew she was okay, I asked her, “Have you not heard about ‘patterns in a relationship’ ”? She wanted to ignore me and went ahead with the usual- all men are the same.
I reassured her that I did not want to give her a lecture but wanted her to face the reality of relationships. When two people meet, sparks fly between them. Then where do these sparks fade away after a few months? That is because it is a part of the pattern. As soon as we start seeing a new person, we feel the adrenaline rush and think that we are a part of a fairy tale. We want to try different things and always compare that relationship with the previous one and trust me, we always find it better. We find so many similarities between each other and just cannot let go of the love. Gradually when two people know each other well and get used to each other, the dissimilarities start popping up.
And there comes a time, when monotony strikes. This is the time when one of the two wants to walk out because there is nothing new left. But you pass this stage and still want to be with that person, you two are meant to be together. Life is all about patterns, but a good life is accepting and rejoicing in the similarities.
Have you noticed these patterns in your relationships?
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