March 29, 2023

An open letter to my pregnant self, from the mommy me

Dear my pregnant self,

First of all Congratulations for the bundle of joy who has just planted inside you and will stay there for the next 38 weeks. Your first reaction when you found out that you are pregnant must be a happy one but soon you will become anxious and scared for the future. When God created women, he kept the process of childbirth in mind and your body is capable of producing children without any issues. And if there are any problems in your pregnancy, remember, science and technology are at your disposal.

Do not adhere to all the advice

As soon as your family and friends know that you are pregnant, they will bombard you with list of doโ€™s and donโ€™ts. Follow only the ones you feel are relevant. You can walk fast, climb up the stairs and dance too.

Sleep as much as you can

I know the frequent urge to pee , backaches and the strong kicks at night wont let you sleep well but please sleep during the whenever you can. Once the baby is here, you wont be able to sleep well at all.

Don’t give in to your cravings

Pregnancy doesn’t mean that you can eat a pizza for dinner every night. Remember more the weight you gain, more the time you will take to shed it. Do you know if you gain weight quickly you might have lots of stretch marks too?

Do not google each and every symptom

If you do, it will leave you worried and stressed. Google does not answer all your questions. If you feel something is wrong, call your doctor right away. Or check with your mommy friends.

Spend quality time with your spouse and go for a baby moon

Don’t be scared of travelling because this is your only chance to spend some quality time with you better half because one your baby is here, the โ€˜ourโ€™ time will go for a toss. Please please please go for a baby moon. Buy beautiful dresses and take lots of selfies.

Letter to my pregnant self

Get a professional pregnancy photoshoot

Don’t listen to the ones who say you may doom your pregnancy with the photo shoots. You will cherish the pregnancy pictures all your life.

Take deep breaths

Whenever you decide to give up, take deep breaths and start all over again. Also, when you reach the time to deliver trust your body. It will take care of the whole process.

You will be okay

There will be tough time in your pregnancy. In those times just trust God and keep your calm. Even after you have the baby, life will throw lots of challenges at you. Don’t give up at any point and remember, you are a good human being and a few parenting failures shouldn’t hamper your spirit. Pray hard when it is the hardest to pray !


The mommy self

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39 thoughts on “An open letter to my pregnant self, from the mommy me

  1. I heard so many weird and crappy advice during my pregnancy. When a woman is pregnant in India, people just consider it their moral obligation to advice the woman, even if the person has absolutely no idea. Good post dear.

  2. This is such a sweet letter ๐Ÿ™‚ Do write one to me too when my time comes ๐Ÿ™‚ great points, and especially about buying dresses and enjoying. Sad to learn that it isnt a time for freedom of eating as you please ๐Ÿ™

  3. Love it! Don’t adhere to all the advice is a good one. I remember at my sisters baby shower everyone telling her what to do and how to raise her yet to be born baby and me whispering to her that she will figure it all out, and if she needs help, she can ask for it. Everyone wants to help but geez it can be overwhelming

  4. This is a fantastic post. I wish I would have realized just because I was pregnant did not mean I should be eating as much as I did in the beginning. I was always so hungry I could not help it.

  5. Having been pregnant 3 times, I would recommend your advice. I got so nervous toward the end thinking about delivery that I really stressed out. I should have take deep breaths.

  6. Lovely letter! I am only a girl student so far; thus becoming a wife and bearing some kids is not what I have taken into my consideration, to be honest. Though, your sharing absolutely gave a rounded view of pregnancy for me and many others, especially those who are and will be bewildered and overloaded by people’s advice, even more that advice is wrong sometimes. I am not sure whether I will be a parent in the future but I hope this post will be helpful for me one day, either for myself or my sisters and friends.

  7. Awww…beautifully written. I enjoyed every moment of both my pregnancies. From the baby-moon to the pampering to the photoshoot, we’ve had our fill.

  8. What a nice post. I had three pregnancies, all of which were different, but pretty easy. Sleep is the most important thing after we have the kids!

  9. Beautiful and an awesome post. Loved your idea of writing a letter to your pregnant self. In fact, this made me think of the time when I was pregnant and how the mommy me would feel about that time. This is a true inspiration and some day I would love to write such a letter to myself.

  10. That’s so well written to your pregnant self, Anchal, or for any pregnant woman. All of then are very relevant. Ignore the unwanted advises, enjoy as you can, photoshoot, babymoon, all.of them are much needed. Good one, Anchal.

  11. I missed out on baby moon & pregnancy shoot too. But I had a stress free pregnancy . So I am just glad that I didn’t have to go through difficult times. Though I had many sleepless nights after delivering my daughter so I second that one should catch up on sleep and enjoy every moment of pregnancy without feeling stressed.

  12. I loved reading the letter you wrote. Honestly we all have experiences and we keep sharing it with others. Same happens in pregnancy phase as well we get so many advices. but, one must thing and follow. thanks for the lovely post.

  13. That’s such a sweet letter!! How I wish we would have invested more time on us before we got on Mommy Board ??

  14. I so agree with you on all the points dear ๐Ÿ™‚ .. I wish I had done some of them myself .. Would love to forward it to all my friends who are expecting ..

  15. I feel awful for not being able to get a professional baby photo shoot or pregnancy photo shoot. I had a budding professional photographer friend who was equally excited to do it but the ‘nazar lag jayegi’ phenomenon ever left me ๐Ÿ™ I still regret it!

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