Welcome to our Blog Train on Parenting mantra where lovely mom bloggers will share their parenting mantras. To know who these bloggers are and what are their mantras , see here. I am sure you all will love the first hand experiences of these mommies and enjoy reading their posts. A big thanks to Priya who blogs at rattlebabblebattle for introducing me. Do check her post out. Let’s know more about me and my parenting style.
I am a stay at home mommy to a gorgeous ten month old baby boy Ayu. He had serious gas issues till three months of age and that made him a clingy boy ever since. My husband has been super helpful and he tries to give as much as time possible to help in the everyday tasks related to the baby. Its been ten months of this beautiful journey of motherhood, and here are a few points that I swear by :
Let them be little
- Be flexible- With babies, you can never run on a schedule. There will be a lot of times when you might have to change your plans. Learn not to fret about it and make new plans.
- Listen to all the advice, but do what you feel is right– We get unsolicited advise from many sources but a parent knows what is best for the child. So plan to do what your heart tells you to.
- step out of comfort zone– I was always afraid to take Ayu out with me alone because I thought I wont be able to handle him. But finally I took a step out of my comfort zone and took him with me at a lunch with my friends. And It turned out to be a cake walk .
- Stay positive– Staying positive is very important to have a stress free parenting experience.
- Go with the flow– Do not restrict your child with a timetable. It is alright to break the monotony sometimes and do what the little one asks for.
- Go out as much as possible: Go out for walks with the baby or shopping. Babies are curious and they love being at new places.
- Avoid saying No– This is something I am working on right now. Instead of telling the baby “ Don’t chew that remote” give him a teether instead and tell him politely,- “You can chew that instead” . It makes a lot of difference.
- Don’t give into all the demands– Because then these kids take you for granted and stop trying harder to do a task. I believe in letting them earn it.
- Give them your undivided attention – I used to stay online on social media while being around my baby and when he asked for my attention, I felt frustrated. That is when I realised I am being a bad mother and this divided attention is bad for the little one. Now I open my laptop or social media applications only when he napping or being taken care by other family members.
- Don’t be overprotective– Let them fall so that they learn how to rise. I don’t mean that literally but let them explore as much as possible. That is what helps their mental development.
These were a few mantras that define my parenting. To know what my fellow blogger Alpana has to share about her experience hop on to her website. Do share in comments what parenting styles have you adopted.