Motherhood happened to me last year when my squishy boy was born. He turned a year old last month and it seemed that the last year just flew out of my hands. They say the days are longer and years are shorter when you become parents and it does hold true in our case. I love looking back at his baby pictures and it amazes me to see him grow up so quickly. I made a few mistakes here and there but on the whole I feel I have been a good first time mom. Here I am sharing the highs and lows of my first year as a mother and these tips and suggestions are solely based on my personal experience. They might be a hit with me but not work out with you.
My First Year of Motherhood
1) Post partum blues are for real : I always thought that delivery is the toughest part, little did I know that taking care of the baby after delivery is tougher. Your body aches because of all the hard work of pushing the baby out and the constant blood dispensing. It leaves you tired and the time when you need rest the most, you cant. because there is a small human to take care of.
2) Swaddling is a must : And I didn’t. For some reason my mom was against it. The weather was crazy hot and I could not get myself to swaddle to baby. I know I should have.
3)Take care of yourself : I had episiotomy and I was advised to take sits bath thrice a day. I used to skip the whole thing altogether. Which resulted in more pain and then opening of the incision. This lead to two months of more medication and tension. Had I taken care of myself from the very first day, I could have skipped the pain.
4) Nutritious Diet : There will e time when you wouldn’t want to touch feed. But your body needs a lot of nutrition post partum and also if you are breastfeeding. Motherhood requires a lot of energy !
5) Outings with the baby : Can you believe it that I did not go out with my little one (except for a few visits to my grandparents place). I should have taken him for a stroll in the stroller. Or taken him to the mall. Its easier to take care of babies than toddlers in malls and eateries.
6) Tummy time : This was our hit. We did lots of tummy time since birth. It helped a lot to release the gas and strengthen his neck and back muscles.
7) Too many toys aren’t required : Just a few attractive ones to keep the baby busy.
8) Night time weaning : This is a debatable topic. We co sleep and the best way to put him back to sleep at night is to feed him. I should have stopped doing that after six months because that is he time when babies start learning how to self soothe and put themselves back to sleep. The outcome? I still need to feed to sleep. And this affects my sleep a lot.
9) ME time : I actually started focussing on me time when I started working out. Motherhood kept me so busy. Half an hour for myself and the day got better. The yelling got lesser. I recently stepped out alone to the mall and left Ayu with his dad. And I repented all the time of doing this too late. I should have started going out earlier which could have helped a lot. But better late than never right?
10) Let Dad feed him : Because just in case you can’t there should be someone who can help him eat. I would try BLW soon. I have seen mommies successful in that department and its commendable.
11) Babies fall sick : The first time Ayu got sick, I lost my mind. I was so worried that I could sleep even when he did. Eventually I realised that it improves their immunity and gradually their bodies start fighting infections
12) Introduce books early : We did and we are proud of it.
13) Don’t force feed : Like adults, babies also have moments when they are not hungry and do not wish to eat. Do not force feed them.
14) Babies love schedules : Ours set his own. I never forced a schedule on him. And continued with baby led schedule.
15) Don’t push them to achieve milestones : These little miracles of God learn things by themselves. I remember how Ayu learnt how to roll over in a couple of days. I do not push him learn just help him to achieve his milestones.
16) Snuggle as much a possible : Because they grow out of it when they grow up.
17) Live each moment : And not wait for the next milestone or fret over missed ones. These babies grow up very quickly. I know you will be tired and would want to take rest and that might even lead to frustration.
18) Travel while they are young : I didnt. And was always so scared of it. Turns out handling babies in flights is easier than tending to toddlers.
19) Babywearing : I started when he was around six months old. I would recommend babywearing from the time they are born. It is so helpful. Keep them close.
20) Let them fall : Because that is when they will learn to rise. Don’t be there to pick them whenever they fall, they learn how to stand and move on. (That doesn’t mean you let them fall when they are too young)
Can you relate to my journey? How was your first year of motherhood? Share your thoughts in comments below.
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